DID YOU CHOOSE TO BE STRAIGHT?

"When did you choose to be straight? Oh, you didn't? Do you think it's the same for gay people?"

YOUR ISSUES, NOT MINE, NOT OURS

Earlier this afternoon, I was invited by a friend for a one-on-one session. I was happy to say yes and was quite anxious about the mysterious topic. I thought of lending a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen. I kept an open mind all throughout her sharing and felt sorry for her. As I walked home, I started to realize that she tried to 'convert' me. Basically, it boiled down to her issues, not mine. After all, I'm not the one who married a gay guy, who had a brief affair years back, and who now harbours feelings for an eligible guy.

In hindsight, I was inconvenienced, and with hubby's advice, sent her a message inviting her for another round--this time, it's me sharing. I need to tell her my reflections on the sharing that happened and why at certain points I was slighted.

I spent half of my life denying myself of who I really am, and frankly, the moment I accepted my whole being, everything opened up to me. I was able to fully share myself with friends, family and colleagues. I am happy with who I am, who I'm with. I am proud of what I have become and definitely not apologizing for it.

People need to be honest--to other people, but most especially to themselves. Respect. That's all there is to it.