YOUR ISSUES, NOT MINE, NOT OURS

Earlier this afternoon, I was invited by a friend for a one-on-one session. I was happy to say yes and was quite anxious about the mysterious topic. I thought of lending a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen. I kept an open mind all throughout her sharing and felt sorry for her. As I walked home, I started to realize that she tried to 'convert' me. Basically, it boiled down to her issues, not mine. After all, I'm not the one who married a gay guy, who had a brief affair years back, and who now harbours feelings for an eligible guy.

In hindsight, I was inconvenienced, and with hubby's advice, sent her a message inviting her for another round--this time, it's me sharing. I need to tell her my reflections on the sharing that happened and why at certain points I was slighted.

I spent half of my life denying myself of who I really am, and frankly, the moment I accepted my whole being, everything opened up to me. I was able to fully share myself with friends, family and colleagues. I am happy with who I am, who I'm with. I am proud of what I have become and definitely not apologizing for it.

People need to be honest--to other people, but most especially to themselves. Respect. That's all there is to it.